What could you say to a dying person that would not enrage by its triviality?

Annie Dilliard asserts: “one should write as if posthumously…Write as if you were dying. At the same time, assume you write for an audience consisting solely of terminal patients. That is, after all, the case. What would you begin writing if you knew you would die soon? What could you say to a dying person that would not enrage by its triviality?”

In the last months and weeks of care-giving a dying loved one, nothing you do or say is trivial. It all has the most profound purpose and meaning. Will there ever be a more important time or place? The last breathe, the last heartbeat, the wrenching open of the veil that moves our loved one away from pain forever. Words do not matter. Being there matters. There is no right or wrong, so you don’t have to worry about getting it right. You just have to show up. There will never be another moment that compares to this in life…the last kiss, the last embrace, the last conscious moment that you’ll ever share. Don’t squander a word, a syllable, don’t squander a second.



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